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Wednesday, October 19, 2011

The Ten Rules of a Wizard.

28 Days

Open Letter from Me to Me.

(Dear readers, I have written a deeply personal letter to myself, I thought I’d share it with you.)

Dear Shawn,

How’s it going handsome? Here’s the orders sent down from the mind and soul department.

Rule # 1

Remove “you owe me one” from your vocabulary. The feeling of accomplishment from helping another person in a positive way is motive enough to exhibit generous and kind behavior. No one owes you anything for being a loving member of society.

Rule #2

Remember that the universe does not revolve around what *you* want or even need.
Providing the people you love with what they want and need will fill your universe with brighter stars than you could ever witness by trying to be a big sun in a little galaxy.

You know the people around you are worthy of your love and attention, they will not forget or take for granted your efforts. Bask in the glow of the happiness of others… it’s warm!

Rule #3

For Christ’s sake, Shawn, stop treating your body like a waste dump. You’ve got high pressure, high cholesterol and prostate cancer … AT 44! You say you love your son and want to live as long as you can to take care of him, you’d better make every effort to get healthy, because you’re no good to him dead and if you don’t clean up your act, you’re nothing but a loser who loved crap food and being lazy more than you loved your family.

Rule #4

Remember, your opinion on trivial matters is not more important than other people’s feelings. Telling a Katy Perry fan that you think she sucks doesn’t mean that you’re exercising your rights as an individual to express your opinion; it means you’re being a dick.

Rule #5

Remember that your opinions on matters of importance must be *informed* opinions based on facts, personal experience, and your own sense of morality; not on sound bites, conjecture and knee-jerk reactions. Shawn, I’ve see your butt in full length mirror and no one wants to see you talking out of it.

Rule #6
Don’t waste your energy on hateful, ignorant, or self-centered people. Being angry at them is pointless. Ignoring them is priceless. Instead find the people who are informed, loving citizens of the world and help them do some real good .
Rule #7

Listen to the fates. Sandy introduced you to Michael, Michael referred you to Marilu, Marilu had you talk to Lloyd and now your future, once uncertain and frightening, is infinitely less terrifying. All four making time for you out of the kindness of their hearts. You must repay their kindness by helping others as best you can.

7a: Listen to Liz Carr, your Jedi Master, who will help you find your center, and I suspect be one of the greatest friends you’ve ever had.

Rule #8
Love your wife. Love your son. Lather, rinse repeat.

How could you not though, I mean really Shawn, if I weren’t you, you’d kick my ass for ogling your wife… and that MIND, that intellect is so formidable it makes me weak in the knees.

And David, the Boo Monster… the King of my World.

Always strive to be a better Dad and Husband … because they really could do better…

Rule #9
Be thankful for what you have: your beautiful family, your amazing friends, your newly purchased home, your great job, having one of the greatest humans on the planet as your boss. (You are brilliant, Tina!)

Also, show your thanks for what AND who you have in your life.

Not everyone is so very lucky.

Rule #10

End each entry thanking at least five individuals you love and respect.

Warmest Regards, Your Own Damn Self

Oh… I’ll do that now!

Annie, my huckleberry, the last few years would have not been nearly as beautiful without you as my friend. (@yogageekgal on Twitter)

David Hanson, he has known me always, the man I named my son after, and a friendship I will never neglect again. I love you man. Also a brilliant artist! (@ragzdandelion on Twitter.)

Sandra Bernhard, her love and support have been indispensable. We have Gemini-Michigan brother-sister telepathy!

Dan Stehle #BROTHER we’ve travelled up and down these roads a long time. I hope it never ends.

Lilly, one of my staunchest supporters and dearest friends, happiness is on its way! ( @lillianavonk on Twitter )

5 more tomorrow !

Until then, Love Eachother !


  1. Ohhh, I was reading this, and thinking about how I wished you would speak more kindly to yourself--now, of all times--and then you had to go and pull a fast one on me with a namecheck!

    For the record, however, I don't think that your wife and child could do ANY better than the fellow they are so lucky to call husband and father. Their lives, like those of all of us who love you, would be infinitely less without you around, so while you work to change your food and lifestyle habits (I especially agree re: ignoring irritating/ignorant people--life is too short to waste precious energy on assholes!), it would be nice if you cut yourself a break, too.

    You are human, and you have made mistakes; nonetheless, now is the time for you to take a little of that boundless love and support you give to everyone else and keep a little for yourself. You are absolutely entitled to that much, and then some. ♥

  2. Oh, Sweet Lilly, it took me every seconnd of my 44 years and a great deal of introspection to get to the place I am now, and the road was not an easy one. I need to be vigilant of my weaknesses.I often repeat this line from 11 when I look in the mirror "Good men don't need rules. Today is not the day to find out why I have so many."

    Friends like you are so very important to me, now, more than ever.

  3. These are awesome rules for us all! Love & hugs!

  4. Thanks for sharing. Lots of wisdom there.

  5. Thanks for posting this Shawn. If everyone even took one of your rules and applied to their lives, the world would be a better place. You are far stronger than I could ever be, and I worship at your feet. It's a great feeling knowing that my bestest friend in the whole world is also my greatest hero. I love ya, buddy!